Role Play

The clown, the event organiser, the laid-back, the quiet one, the rowdy one, the follower, the all-around-person and still many more of those roles are always delegated to certain individuals in social groups. Very rarely (if any), groups has homogenous personality in their structure. By this very premise we can asume that multi-facet characters enables a group to function normally. Extreem homogenity will only produce an overlapping design of needs and neccesity inside the interactional aspect of the group. Imagine, a close relationships between individuals which all possess extraversion, sensation seeking, high temperamental disposition and a high need for achievement. Placed in a simple situation where to go on a Friday night. One wants to go clubbing because he has dozens of free pass, the other insist on having a crazy out of town trip since he was left with daddy Mercedes Vito, and of course someone proclaims her idea to simply hang around in a recently opened cafe is better because it's the current "hip place" nowadays. Compromise is scarce when strong egos like this are involved and the same goes for the opposite where decisions are unlikely to be made with an unclear go-with-the-flow outcome.

Personally (yes, ladies and gentlemen self-absorb mode is on again), I have considered myself as the slow starter. Basically, I'm an analyst. I observe and find connections in peoples communication style during a certain social setting. I stay mysterious however attentive through every conversation. By the point I manage to assess their style of chit-chat (basa-basi), jokes, desired topics and interest that's where I strike. Every single time, that's my modus operandi. Regarding those facts it is to no surprise people often judge me as low-key at first and get surprised on how chatty and reckless I am afterwards.

As my previous posts suggest on how Brisbane has sucked part of my soul, I have been longing for the "analyst mode on" and to be successful in execution for some time. The case here, I always get fixated in the assessment part and fail to perform the most important segment, the actual mixing up with the crowd thing. You might be surprise on how the change on your enviroment affects you to an overwhealming extent. The strong close knitted group I had is nowhere to be found anywhere here. Therefore, the force to enhance yourself is impaired by itself.

Tonight, was an exception. I communicated well to people I barely knew, had the ussual warm-up chit-chat, the jokes accompanied with genuine laughter, and the right topics for every set of conversation. How did that happen? A lot of dissapointment of previously highly held expectations has something to do with it. I've adapt this, not in a short notice. Nevertheless, I did it. On my own. Something that was unthinkable since I had this strong dependence and tendency to cling on my group in order to feel lively and comfortable among others. I'm just glad to find my oldself in this brand new paronoia, trust issue, and independence thing called maturity.

Another point for self-esteem has been gained.